We can’t avoid all Demands

I’ve seen a few comments from parents who have been told by so called professionals that their child cannot have PDA because ‘they cooperate some of the time’. It seems some people believe that PDAers cannot do anything, ever. This shows a basic lack of understanding of what PDA is. The words ‘struggles’ and ‘difficulties’ […]

The consequences of not avoiding

Some might think that not avoiding demands is a good thing, that it means we can do all the stuff regular people do, that pushing through demand avoidance can only lead to a better life. However, there are consequences to not avoiding demands. I’ve been trying to do more than normal recently, seeing the bridge […]

How PDA can cause depression

There are many reasons for depression, sometimes there’s no reason for it at all, it just happens. One reason can be PDA. A lack of understanding of what PDA is and why a PDAer acts the way they do can mean the person is handled badly. Many people unwittingly cause PDAers depression because they are […]

Reasons for avoidance

There are many different reasons why a person will avoid something. Whilst most PDA demand avoidance stems from anxiety, the reason for the anxiety may be different each time. Knowing why something causes demand avoidance might help reduce anxiety by accommodating needs to ensure the reasons for demand avoidance are reduced. Experience – having had […]

More tips for parenting your PDA child.

Due to demands being so hard for PDA people to take, the way you verbalise demands is very important. Since every child is different, even within PDA, what might work for one may not work for another. PDA children also have a tendency to prefer novelty, which is why new tactics may work for a short […]

The Unavoidable Demands

The Unavoidable Demands There are some demands which, no matter how hard we try, we PDAers cannot avoid. Because anything and everything can be perceived as a demand to us, there will naturally be some demands which are difficult or impossible to avoid altogether. This can cause a lot of stress. Since our brains believe […]