There are many reasons behind asking someone to do something, often need and delegation of duties are main factors, but when it comes to asking someone who has unique difficulties and a difference of neurology, it can be difficult to figure out the pros and cons. Demand avoidance means no matter what you ask, it […]
When it comes to communicating with people who are new to PDA, or are yet to fully understand it, it can be difficult for me to describe PDA in ways that are recognised but are not negative. As an advocate, one of my jobs is to push for awareness of PDA amongst those who have […]
Ah avoidance, the bane and beauty of my life. It’s the thing that stops me from doing stuff and the thing I use to help me do stuff. That’s right, I’ve turned my disability into my ability. How you ask, well, the beauty of demand avoidance is that it often forces me to do something, […]
PDA is Autism. We have all the usual Autism traits, preferences and needs but with a PDA twist. This means many of the usual Autism traits are skewered to form our PDA traits. Often our autistic needs are at constant war with our PDA needs. A good example is in this meme (credit goes to […]
I’ve been reading this brilliant blog https://homecrazzyhome.wordpress.com/ by Tara, a lovely mother to PanKwake. They are Radical Unschoolers and she details her life Radically Unschooling her PDA daughter. Radical Unschooling follows on from the Unschooling principle, a type of Home Education which doesn’t follow the strict rule and routine of regular schooling. Unschooling is letting your child […]
Who am I? Am I a PDA person? Or do I have PDA? Am I an adult with PDA? Or an adult PDAer? Am I a person with PDA? A PDA adult? Or just a PDAer? Do I have Pathological Demand Avoidance? Or am I Pathologically Demand Avoidant? Who am I?
A while ago I wrote the post We should be standing together. Today I read an article which shows just how far removed from standing together some people are. Here is the link if you want to read the article. The author of the article (pathological demand avoidance: my thoughts on looping effects and commodification of autism) expresses […]