Managing Demands

If you don’t already know about the Spoon theory then you can read up about it via this Link. I’ll be using the term spoons to describe the energy needed to manage demands. When someone finds out that they are a PDAer or have a PDAer they may begin using PDA strategies, one of the first […]

Reasons for avoidance

There are many different reasons why a person will avoid something. Whilst most PDA demand avoidance stems from anxiety, the reason for the anxiety may be different each time. Knowing why something causes demand avoidance might help reduce anxiety by accommodating needs to ensure the reasons for demand avoidance are reduced. Experience – having had […]

Is anxiety at the root of PDA?

I’ve been doing some thinking (actually I never stop thinking haha my brain doesn’t have an off button), is anxiety really at the root of Pathological Demand Avoidance? Or is there something else. A couple of years ago, if you’d asked me if I ever felt anxious I’d have laughed and said “nope, I never […]

More tips for parenting your PDA child.

Due to demands being so hard for PDA people to take, the way you verbalise demands is very important. Since every child is different, even within PDA, what might work for one may not work for another. PDA children also have a tendency to prefer novelty, which is why new tactics may work for a short […]

PDA oppositional behaviour

Oppositional behaviour – where a person behaves in a way that is opposite to what is expected by themselves and/or others. Many people dislike this term, especially when it’s used to describe PDAers who wont do what people have told them to do. They’re not conforming to authority and so they are being oppositional. Perhaps the […]

“I don’t like demands either”

There are times when people who share their diagnosis and/or explain traits of PDA, they are told “Oh, I do that too” or I don’t like demands either”. These comments come from people who are either trying to find common ground with the sharer by saying that they too have similar issues, or they are […]

Demand avoidance: when there’s nothing there

Demand avoidance: when there’s nothing there We all know the process. Child acts out, parent goes searching for the cause in order to help child and prevent future occurrence of negative behaviour. This makes sense. Find the cause and you’ll ‘correct’ the behaviour. After all, all behaviour is communication. But what happens when the parent […]