Recovering from being sociable

Being sociable is hard. It’s tiring, mentally exhausting. My brain feels like it needs a break. This is common for neurodiverse people, not so much for neurotypical people. I’ve heard that for ‘normal’ people, being sociable is a way of de-stressing and recovering from the day’s events 😮 For Autistic people and especially for PDA […]

How to tell if it’s ODD or PDA

ODD – deficit or injury to the brain, genetic personality trait making them more prone to having ODD or environmental PDA – genetic ODD – may have autism/Asperger’s as well, although some believe autistic people cannot also have ODD as those types of traits are common in autism difficulties anyway PDA – a sub-type of […]

The day I (mostly) ditched my anxiety.

Or nervousness as I called it back then. It was a few years ago, before I knew what anxiety was and way before I’d understood what Autism was, never mind PDA. I was in college doing a university course, running a house by myself and being a single mum to an energetic young boy. Needless […]

Reason or excuse?

Reason: a cause, explanation, or justification for an action or event. Excuse: seek to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offence); try to justify. Reasons can and are often mistaken for excuses. If a child refuses to eat their food saying that it feels yucky the parent might think this is an excuse […]

The ways I don’t quite fit the Autism label.

I have a diagnosis of Asperger’s. When I first learnt about Autism I thought the label fit me. As it’s a spectrum it made sense that not everything applied to myself. I am terrible at maths. There’s not really any ‘one’ thing that I’m good at. I don’t have one particular obsession. Routine doesn’t work […]

Why anxiety self-help only half works.

There are many articles out there that explain how to overcome anxiety. While there’s a lot of useful information in them I think they only half work. The advice given has merit, dealing with the facts rather than emotions that surround your anxieties, exercise, avoid caffeine and alcohol, practising breathing and meditating etc. While these […]

The ‘Smile’.

The ‘Smile’ is the name I give for when, regardless of how I’m feeling, if someone sees me I automatically smile. I hate this. It’s not true to me. It’s a fake ‘I’m fine please don’t talk to me’ smile. It’s a way of hiding my feelings, putting distance between myself and everyone else and […]