No, we can’t just accept ‘no’.

We can’t just accept ‘no’. There is no accepting it for us. It’s not a game we are playing, we’re not trying to ‘win’ anything, we’re not doing this for fun or because we want to. This is our life. We don’t want to act this way. We don’t get to ‘win’ against ourselves. Everyday […]

The downfall of coping strategies

Coping strategies are supposed to help us manage issues, they provide us with a way of managing areas which are difficulties in our lives. Some work perfectly without any negative repercussions, however, some coping strategies can have the opposite effect. For me, I’ve noticed that some of my strategies for managing Demand Avoidance, while being […]

Managing Demands

If you don’t already know about the Spoon theory then you can read up about it via this┬áLink. I’ll be using the term spoons to describe the energy needed to manage demands. When someone finds out that they are a PDAer or have a PDAer they may begin using PDA strategies, one of the first […]

Uni/college stress

I have a HNC (Higher National Certificate) in Business studies from college (it was a Uni course, but was taught at a college), it should have been a HND (Higher National Diploma) but I missed the last term, so missed out on the necessary points to gain a HND. I worked my way up from […]

How PDA can cause depression

There are many reasons for depression, sometimes there’s no reason for it at all, it just happens. One reason can be PDA. A lack of understanding of what PDA is and why a PDAer acts the way they do can mean the person is handled badly. Many people unwittingly cause PDAers depression because they are […]

Reasons for avoidance

There are many different reasons why a person will avoid something. Whilst most PDA demand avoidance stems from anxiety, the reason for the anxiety may be different each time. Knowing why something causes demand avoidance might help reduce anxiety by accommodating needs to ensure the reasons for demand avoidance are reduced. Experience – having had […]

Is anxiety at the root of PDA?

I’ve been doing some thinking (actually I never stop thinking haha my brain doesn’t have an off button), is anxiety really at the root of Pathological Demand Avoidance? Or is there something else. A couple of years ago, if you’d asked me if I ever felt anxious I’d have laughed and said “nope, I never […]