The monster

There’s a big, bad monster living in my head It’s eating away at me from under my bed   I hear so many times how we (us PDAers and Autistics) don’t seem to care; about our appearance, about our hygiene, about our health, about the fact that we smell because we haven’t washed in days […]

No, we can’t just accept ‘no’.

We can’t just accept ‘no’. There is no accepting it for us. It’s not a game we are playing, we’re not trying to ‘win’ anything, we’re not doing this for fun or because we want to. This is our life. We don’t want to act this way. We don’t get to ‘win’ against ourselves. Everyday […]

The downfall of coping strategies

Coping strategies are supposed to help us manage issues, they provide us with a way of managing areas which are difficulties in our lives. Some work perfectly without any negative repercussions, however, some coping strategies can have the opposite effect. For me, I’ve noticed that some of my strategies for managing Demand Avoidance, while being […]

Managing Demands

If you don’t already know about the Spoon theory then you can read up about it via this Link. I’ll be using the term spoons to describe the energy needed to manage demands. When someone finds out that they are a PDAer or have a PDAer they may begin using PDA strategies, one of the first […]

Uni/college stress

I have a HNC (Higher National Certificate) in Business studies from college (it was a Uni course, but was taught at a college), it should have been a HND (Higher National Diploma) but I missed the last term, so missed out on the necessary points to gain a HND. I worked my way up from […]

How PDA can cause depression

There are many reasons for depression, sometimes there’s no reason for it at all, it just happens. One reason can be PDA. A lack of understanding of what PDA is and why a PDAer acts the way they do can mean the person is handled badly. Many people unwittingly cause PDAers depression because they are […]