Masking

You might have heard that Autistic people have the ability to mask. They can adapt to the situation they are in by pretending to be ‘normal’ and hiding their differences. They hide their stims, try not to talk about their interests, try to make eye contact, pretend to care about small talk topics, copy body […]

What my meltdowns look like

It’s commonly known in the Autistic community that a meltdown is nothing like a tantrum. It’s a total loss of control, a need to get emotions out, to find some stability by exploding and getting rid of the pressure building up inside. Everyone knows you cannot reason with someone when they are having a meltdown, […]

Where’s the support for the neurodiverse family?

When a family is given support or advice it’s nearly always tailored to NT’s parenting neurodiverse children or towards NT siblings of neurodiverse children. But what about the neurodiverse family? The PDA Soapbox recently created a blog post asking for advice on how to parent multiple neurodiverse children, you can read the post here. It’s a brilliant […]

We should be standing together

I recently read an article explaining why PDA isn’t diagnosed, the article basically inferred that PDA doesn’t exist and is just attachment disorder being mislabelled. Amongst the comments at the end of the article was one by an ‘Autistic individual’, this person said, and I quote: “Not all autistic individuals support PDA.” and “I do […]

Causing meltdowns

Meltdowns are awful things to experience, both for the person having the meltdown and those watching. So many parents try to adapt their parenting style to avoid triggering meltdowns. Those who experience meltdowns do everything they can to avoid having a meltdown, including avoiding triggers, shutting down instead, staying away from triggering environments, trying to […]

The Autism of PDA

A question I recently heard was ‘can only high functioning Asperger’s have PDA?’ It’s not the first time I’ve come across a similar question or a comment that all PDAers are ‘high functioning’ or have ‘great verbal skills’. While it does seem that many PDAers have better verbal and social skills than most Autistics, this […]