The PDA empath

Imagine walking into a crowded room and instantly being able to feel every emotion each person was feeling as if the emotions were your own. You would feel depressed, happy, sad, anxious, excited, jealous, angry etc all at once. It would be overwhelming. No doubt you would turn around and leave, unable to control all […]

There’s no such thing as no demands

A lot of parents recognise that their PDA kids have a lot of anxiety, usually triggered by demands which can cause avoidance and panic attacks. In order to help their children they will remove demands in order to make it easier to cope. This is helpful for the PDA child as they can only handle so much anxiety […]

In the moment

Trigger warning. “Everybody hates me” “I’d be better off dead” “Everyone would be happier if I didn’t exist” “I’ll just kill myself and then everybody can be happy when I’m gone” “Why do you hate me” “Everything I do is wrong, why can’t I just be right” Horrible to hear from someone you love. Horrible […]

Fight, Flight or Freeze.

It’s been bugging me how often I see articles, blogs and other general information on the fight or flight instinct but nothing is mentioned about the freeze instinct. You’d think people would be more knowledgeable, especially since it’s such a well-known instinct in rabbits. Who doesn’t know about rabbits freezing when they see the lights from […]

PDA and healthy eating.

Healthy eating, it’s something we think about daily. Everything that’s good for us seems to come in the shape of a demand. Going to school can get us a decent education which can lead to a better job – a demand given to us from society. Getting dressed, washing, grooming ourselves – a demand from […]

A is for Avoidance.

A is for Avoidance. Avoidance is the act of keeping away from something, a fitting action then to the fear that demand evokes. When a person avoids something they go out of their way to make sure they don’t go near the thing, to not think about the thing, to not feel the thing or […]

D is for Demand.

D is for Demand. A demand is an insistent and peremptory (good word, it means insisting on immediate attention or obedience) request. Basically, anything that someone has ordered to be done right away with no choice of inaction. It seems that the word demand is synonymous to obedience (and people wonder why we resist). To […]