I have a now or never mentality when it comes to tasks. When the post comes I read it immediately and deal with whatever it is straightaway. Appointments I record straight into my diary, letters, emails, notifications I reply to straightaway. This isn’t because I’m proactive or ‘on the ball’ or even organised. I’m forgetful […]
It’s baffling, ridiculous and counterproductive. Why is it so hard to get a PDA diagnosis? At the least, we get told they’re not Autistic, they don’t score enough points, they’re just naughty or bad or deliberately defiant, at best we get a diagnosis of ASD with demand avoidance and we have to be happy with […]
I know most parents at some point will try to agree an arrangement with their kid/s, ‘you do this and I’ll do that’ or ‘if you don’t do that then I’ll do this’. It’s a good concept, a little give and take between two people, coming to a compromise between two opposing forces which may […]
Coping strategies are supposed to help us manage issues, they provide us with a way of managing areas which are difficulties in our lives. Some work perfectly without any negative repercussions, however, some coping strategies can have the opposite effect. For me, I’ve noticed that some of my strategies for managing Demand Avoidance, while being […]
Autistic Demand Avoidance vs Pathological Demand Avoidance (ADA vs PDA). Many people experience Demand Avoidance (DA), usually in regards to things like filling in tax forms or buying new furniture. People may leave these things to the last minute then panic and sort it in a rush. Every person on the planet will avoid at […]
There are many different reasons why a person will avoid something. Whilst most PDA demand avoidance stems from anxiety, the reason for the anxiety may be different each time. Knowing why something causes demand avoidance might help reduce anxiety by accommodating needs to ensure the reasons for demand avoidance are reduced. Experience – having had […]
I’ve been doing some thinking (actually I never stop thinking haha my brain doesn’t have an off button), is anxiety really at the root of Pathological Demand Avoidance? Or is there something else. A couple of years ago, if you’d asked me if I ever felt anxious I’d have laughed and said “nope, I never […]
