PDA oppositional behaviour

Oppositional behaviour – where a person behaves in a way that is opposite to what is expected by themselves and/or others. Many people dislike this term, especially when it’s used to describe PDAers who wont do what people have told them to do. They’re not conforming to authority and so they are being oppositional.¬†Perhaps the […]

Modelling behaviour and normalising

When you have children you expect to have to teach them everything. This is true, children do have to learn a lot and it makes sense to do this by showing them, explaining to them and teaching them how to do these things. There are also things that children will pick up, either naturally, instinctively […]

How to tell if it’s ODD or PDA

ODD – deficit or injury to the brain, genetic personality trait making them more prone to having ODD or environmental PDA – genetic ODD – may have autism/Asperger’s as well, although some believe autistic people cannot also have ODD as those types of traits are common in autism difficulties anyway PDA – a sub-type of […]

The mother.

Not a happy post and has some triggers so – Trigger Warning. I’ve come to the realisation that my mother might have/have had PDA. It makes sense now that I think about it. She never did any housework, even when she was the sole parent and the house was crawling with ants and the dishes […]

Reason or excuse?

Reason: a cause, explanation, or justification for an action or event. Excuse: seek to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offence); try to justify. Reasons can and are often mistaken for excuses. If a child refuses to eat their food saying that it feels yucky the parent might think this is an excuse […]

Do my disabilities define me?

Define: State or describe exactly the nature, scope or meaning of. Some people say ‘Autism doesn’t define you’ or ‘don’t let you disabilities define you’ or ‘don’t let your past define who you are today’ etc. Other people say ‘how can my past not define who I am when it’s impacted upon my personality and […]

Why anxiety self-help only half works.

There are many articles out there that explain how to overcome anxiety. While there’s a lot of useful information in them I think they only half work. The advice given has merit, dealing with the facts rather than emotions that surround your anxieties, exercise, avoid caffeine and alcohol, practising breathing and meditating etc. While these […]