PDA is Autism. We have all the usual Autism traits, preferences and needs but with a PDA twist. This means many of the usual Autism traits are skewered to form our PDA traits. Often our autistic needs are at constant war with our PDA needs. A good example is in this meme (credit goes to Sally Cat, here’s a link to her facebook page – Sally Cat’s PDA Page )
Sally Cat’s guide to PDA
Routine & PDA
The Autistic part of me craves Routine.
The PDA part of me hates it.
As a result, I only like Routine I have chosen.
It sometimes feels like I’m splitting myself in half!
The PDA and the Autistic parts of myself are always at war.
The Autistic side wants to do things in order and the ‘correct’ way, the PDA side wants to get it over with as fast as possible and do things differently every time. This means I end up cutting corners trying to be both quick and efficient.
The PDA part of me loves change and novelty, it makes me ill to keep things the same. The Autistic part of me fears change and the unknown and craves the comfort of the familiar.
The Autistic part of me needs to know every detail of an event so I can plan in detail. The PDA part of me doesn’ want to know, planning leads to expectation which leads to anxiety and disappointment.
The Autistic part of me wants to please everyone and do what everyone wants me to do, the Autistic part of me wants to follow the rules to the letter. The PDA part of me resists everything, it wants to throw out the rule book or deliberatly break the rules just to show it can and that no one can tell it me what to do.
The PDA part of me needs to control everything and everyone around me. The Autistic part of me needs to control just me.
The Autistic part of me wants to do the same thing, at the same time, in the same way. The PDA part of me wants to shake it up, do it differently everytime, or preferably not at all.
The Autistic part of me wants to do everything, but try nothing. The PDA part of me wants to do nothing, but try everything.
Autism is old and calm and stable, it’s familiar and constant and dependable.
PDA is new and frantic and all over the place, it’s novelty and fun and different.
And they are both at war within me.