Litter picking

The life of a PDAer Litter picking

Finishes packet of crisps.

Crumples packet into a ball.

Leaves on nearby table.

Hour later needs toilet, gets up and grabs empty crisp packet.

Walks past bin and attempts to throw it in.

Misses, packet lands on floor.

Stands looking at packet for few moments, then continues on to toilet.

Packet stays on floor until other family member picks it up and throws it into bin.

PDAer – never admits to leaving it there.


Published by: dragonriko

I am a 30 year old female PDAer with 3 kids. I love food, books, socks, DS games, and writing about PDA. My fav colour is purple and my fav animals are Dragons. I prefer the countryside, autumn/winter, walking, swimming and squash.

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2 thoughts on “Litter picking”

  1. My PDAer does this. I wish I could understand. It feels abusive, but I want to believe that it is not. I just don’t understand.

    1. Yes, the thing with demand avoidance is that even tiny things like picking something up or moving something can be extremely difficult for us. It feels like an impossible task, so we avoid it. Then it looks like we just don’t care or are disrespectful when chances are we’ve not stopped thinking about that crisp packet for hours and feel immense guilt over it.
      And then of course admitting to doing or not doing something is a demand to be avoided. It’s easy to see how that can feel like abuse. It’s important to remember that demand avoidance is a disability, that we have little control over it.
      Of course if a PDAer is being abusive you have every right to step away from that. It’s a tricky situation for parents for sure.

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